A Religion Without Guilt?

Rev. Mark Stringer

First Unitarian Church of Des Moines

10/07/01

 

Meditation for 10/07/01

Creative Spirit, Spirit of Life

Source of Human Good

We gather this morning

Fellow travelers in search of a destination

For our hopes and dreams

An oasis of justice and compassion

In the desert of our living.

 

We gather this morning

Carrying with us all the accumulated baggage of our lives

Suitcases of memories, packed tightly

With our passions and regrets.

Packages of assorted weights

Bundles of various burdens

May we find here a place to set them down for a while

So that we may rest and regain our strength for the journey ahead.

 

We gather this morning

Stirred by the brilliant colors

Of an ever-emerging autumn

Signaling another season of our living

Another season of our lives.

 

The words of Wendell Berry…

“Now constantly there is the sound,

quieter than rain,

of the leaves falling.

Under their loosening bright

Gold, the sycamore limbs

Bleach whiter.

Now the only flowers

Are beeweed and aster, spray

Of their white and lavender

Over the brown leaves.

The calling of a crow sounds

Loud—a landmark—now

That the life of summer falls

Silent, and the nights grow.”

 

In this season of falling leaves and growing night,

May the burdens of our living lighten a little

Leaving behind the space we need

To grieve, to grow, and to live.

Amen.

 

Responsive Reading

 

In a world with so much hatred and violence,

We need a religion that proclaims the inherent worth and dignity of every person.

 

In a world with so much brutality and fear,

We need a religion that seeks justice, equity, and compassion in human relations.

 

In a world with so many persons abused and neglected,

We need a religion that calls us to accept one another and encourage one another to spiritual growth.

 

In a world with so much dogmatism and falsehood,

We need a religion that challenges us to a free and responsible search for truth and meaning.

 

In a world with so much tyranny and oppression,

We need a religion that affirms the right of conscience and the use of democratic process.

 

In a world with so much inequality and strife,

We need a religion that strives toward the goal of world community with peace, liberty, and justice for all.

 

In a world with so much environmental degradation,

We need a religion that advocates respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.

 

In a world with so much uncertainty and despair,

We need a religion that teaches our hearts to hope, and our hands to serve.       

 

--Rev. Scott W. Alexander

 

 

Sermon

 

When I told my brother-in-law that today was going to be “Bring a Friend Sunday” and that the sermon I was going to deliver would be asking the question, “Is Unitarian Universalism a religion without guilt?”, he offered some sage insight that could have saved me a lot of time.  He recommended that I say, “Those who didn’t bring a friend today should feel guilty.  There.  I guess we don’t have a religion without guilt.  Go in peace.”  But since I had already worked up a lengthier sermon, I feel compelled to continue. 

 

The idea for this sermon was inspired by something I read in a past edition of The Unitarian Universalist Pocket Guide, a book published by the Unitarian Universalist Association in Boston as a resource for those new to our liberal branch of religion. In the preface, past association president Bill Schulz wrote, “…if you are looking for a community within which you and your children can explore the common questions of humanity without fear or guilt, we may well have something to offer.”[1]  When I first found that passage years ago, I read it as a triumphant declaration of truth. How wonderful it all seemed.  A religion without guilt!

 

I had recently discovered UUism through my involvement at The Community Church of New York, and found the services I experienced there to be a balm for my past interior battles over issues of faith.  In my late adolescence I had struggled with some of the rituals of my family’s Presbyterian church, believing that my participation was inauthentic at best. Fortunately, I had a mother who welcomed my questions and encouraged my quest for understanding.  I told her I was uncomfortable taking communion because I wasn’t sure I could accept everything I thought it represented.  She told me that a person doesn’t have to believe everything at church…that taking communion was only a symbol of a person’s attempts to believe.  While her explanations were a comfort to me, I still did not feel as though I could participate with a clear conscience.  So one Sunday morning I concluded that it was time to commit to my lack of faith.  I would no longer accept communion until I could earnestly engage in the ritual.  In this church of my youth, everyone partakes of the communion elements at the same time.  When the grape juice was passed out in those tiny glasses, I felt strong and proud of the teenaged stand I was taking.  I was doing the right thing.  After all, I thought, faith should not be taken lightly and I owed it to myself and to whatever god there might be to make a firm commitment to my struggle.  As everyone’s head dropped back to accept the symbolic juice, mine stayed stationary. The sight was a perfect physicalization of what I was feeling inside.  The congregation’s nodding heads were like a collective swinging door into my soul. There was probably no time in my life when I felt as alone as I did that morning.  I began to quietly cry, mourning the life I was leaving behind as I passed into a new phase of my religious journey, a phase where my doubt reigned supreme, where answers were not prescribed by a central authority, but where I would have to share in the work to discover what was true…where I would have to work to determine the content of my ultimate commitments.  At that moment I took a tiny first step down a heretical trail long ago blazed by many of our liberal religious forbearers…such as the 16th century Spainiard Michael Servetus who was burned at the stake for his doubt about the doctrine of the trinity; 19th century Universalist minister Hosea Ballou, who in his Treatise on Atonement denied the Calvinistic doctrine of limited election to grace and declared that salvation was everyone’s birthright, regardless of their earthly mistakes; Unitarian Transcendentalist Ralph Waldo Emerson, who encouraged religious liberals to eschew supernatural miracles for the divine significance of the ordinary course of nature and immediate experience; Universalist minister and suffragette Olympia Brown, who in 1863 was one of the first women ordained to the ministry by an American denomination…as well as those who contributed to the twentieth century movements of humanism, feminist theology, and neo-Paganism, to name a few. I had started down a trail long ago taken by many of you here this morning…a trail that avoids the guilt-ridden notions of original sin and innate human depravity…a trail that leads instead towards what I have found to be a more optimistic view of the true potential of our shared lives, a view that calls for individual responsibility and possibility…possibility for change, for transformation, for justice, for ever-emerging revelation and growth. 

 

When I discovered Unitarian Universalism, I believed I had found a religion without guilt, for in the services I attended, I found space for my questions and doubts…I didn’t feel the need to check them at the door.  The lack of dogma assured me that I wouldn’t be expected to believe things I didn’t believe, a really big piece for me initially…that not having to believe part. And yet, while this freedom of belief has been and will continue to be an important component of liberal religion, I have come to realize during my time in UU churches that freedom of belief is not the only foundation upon which our living liberal religious tradition stands. Certainly each individual’s reason and conscience are essential elements of her religious perspective, but, I contend, not at the exclusion of the contributions of other perspectives. After all, the word “religious” is derived from a Latin word meaning “to reconnect.” When we are being religious, therefore, we are opening ourselves to the possibilities of reconnection.  Not only the reconnection that can occur within ourselves as we embrace our own powers of reason and of conscience, but the reconnection we can make with those who share our world. If we rely solely on our individually formed beliefs, we run the risk of falling prey to the comfortable tendency to believe firmly and deeply in a God who always agrees with us…a kind of idolatry which, at its worst, can lead to the evil we have seen displayed in the actions of a determined band of fanatical terrorists.  I think our need for connection and reconnection—for exposure to perspectives other than our own, is one of the primary reasons it is important that we gather here every Sunday, a day devoted to building a bridge from our own minds into the minds of others; a bridge out of our own views of the world into the expanding universe of belief.  If there is nothing against which our ideas of the world can be tested, then what value do our ideas hold in the first place?  By collectively bowing to the mystery of our shared existence, we can move closer to recognizing the significance of our individual lives.  By gathering together and supporting this community, we are affirming not only our right to question, but to believe…to believe that our lives matter.  We affirm our humanity by recognizing the need to consider the beliefs of others.  And as we show respect to those with beliefs different from ours, we effectively show respect to ourselves.

 

Those unfamiliar with Unitarian Universalism sometimes describe us a wishy-washy people who avoid commitment.  I’m sure you’ve heard at least some of the jokes…those that describe UUs as religious people who knock at your door…for no particular reason, or who burn question marks in your yard, or whose churches are just way stations between Methodism and the golf course.[2] Perhaps some of you have seen the episode of “The Simpsons” during which the neighboring Flanders boys are showing Bart a video game called “Bible Blasters” where the heroes are missionaries converting the unsaved with some kind of Bible bombs.  When one of the targets is not hit directly with the guns of good news, the boys shout out “Aww, you just maimed him and made him a Unitarian.”  I do find these jokes funny and it is healthy for us to laugh at ourselves.  However, they speak volumes of our tendency to describe ourselves by what we don’t believe, thereby leaving the impression that we don’t believe in anything.  Every time we describe our church as a place where people can believe whatever they want, we are not telling the whole story. In fact, we are not telling the story at all. One of the shared principles of Unitarian Universalism is the commitment to affirm and promote not only a free search for truth and meaning, but a free and responsible search for truth and meaning.  Responsible.  I contend that the only way we can responsibly search for truth is through engagement with others who share this planet with us…and the planet itself.  Here at the First Unitarian Church of Des Moines, and at other UU churches across the country, I believe we are providing laboratories where these kinds of exchanges can take place. By leaving room for doubt, and disagreement, and respectful dissent, by following democratic process in our church governance, by attempting to approach justice, equity and compassion in human relations, and by not limiting ourselves to a particular creed or a sealed ecclesiastical canon, I contend we are being far from wishy-washy…we are keeping ourselves open to the learning that occurs when we affirm and promote the exchange of ideas.  We are keeping ourselves open to the continuous revelation that will always point toward reconnection and commitment to that which is beyond our isolated lives.  A primary mission of our liberal religion, therefore, is to insist that there be room in our world for these kinds of exchanges to occur…to encourage that our free and responsible search for truth and meaning continues to draw from many sources beyond ourselves.  Sources that include…

“Direct experience of that transcending mystery and wonder, affirmed in all cultures, which moves us to renewal of the spirit and an openness to the forces with create and uphold life;

 

Words and deeds of prophetic women and men, which challenge us to confront powers and structures of evil with justice, compassion and the transforming power of love;

 

Wisdom from the world’s religions, which inspires us in our ethical and spiritual life;

 

Jewish and Christian teachings, which call us to respond to God’s love by loving our neighbors as ourselves;

 

Humanist teachings, which counsel us to heed the guidance of reason and the results of science and warn us against idolatries of the mind and spirit;

 

And spiritual teachings of Earth-centered traditions, which celebrate the sacred circle of life and instruct us to live in harmony with the rhythms of nature.”

 

So is Unitarian Universalism a religion without guilt?  I think if we define guilt as innate depravity, some kind of inherent moral corruption present from the moment of our birth, UUs are free from guilt, indeed…as is all humankind.  However, if we define guilt as “the fact of being responsible for an offense or wrongdoing” there is no assurance that our lives can ever be free from guilt.  For whenever we don’t live up to our principles, whenever we cut off dialogue and refuse to open ourselves to the inherent worth and dignity of others, whenever we assume that our individual perspectives are all we need, I contend we should feel some guilt, some “remorseful awareness of having done something wrong.” And may that guilt motivate us toward actions more in line with our complex and demanding liberal religious quest for truth, meaning, justice, and compassion.  Our troubled, endangered world demands that it be so.

 

Closing Words (Lauralyn Bellamy)

“If here, you have found freedom,

take it with you into the world.

If you have found comfort,

Go and share it with others.

If you have dreamed dreams,

Help one another,

That they may come true!

If you have known love,

Give some back

To a bruised and hurting world.”



[1] Schultz, William F., “Preface,” The Unitarian Universalist Pocket Guide, 2nd ed. (Boston: Skinner House, 1993), p. vii.

[2] Alexander, Scott W. “Getting Serious About Your Unitarian Universalism” Quest (Boston:  CLF, June 1994), pp. 18-19.