Silent Night (or The Ghosts of Christmas Carols)
Rev. Mark Stringer
First Unitarian Church of Des Moines

12/15/02

 

Meditation for 12/15/02

Creative Spirit, Spirit of Life

Known by many names spoken and unspoken.

As the year winds down to its close

And we are submerged once again

In the seasonal darkness we have come to know so well,

We have reason to think back upon the year that was,

If only because it will soon be gone.

We think back to the friends we have made,

The sorrow we have endured

The love we have found

The loneliness we have survived.

We think back to the blessings of being forgiven

And the gift we offered to ourselves when we forgave.

We think back to those who listened to us in our times of need

And the times we could have listened more.

We think back to the things we traded for our time

And to what we may have overlooked in the process.

We think back to the times when we were afraid and uncertain

and we trudged ahead anyway,

and the times when we were compassionate
when we could have been cold.

In this season of growing night

May we see more clearly

Against the dark backdrop of our living

The true light of our lives:

The love we give to others

And the peace we nurture in ourselves.

Amen.

 

 

Reading  "The Season of Remembrance" by Howard Thurman

 

Again and again, it comes:

The Time of Recollection,

The Season of Remembrance.

Empty vessels of hope fill up again;

Forgotten treasures of dreams reclaim their place;

Long-lost memories come trooping back to me.

This is my season of remembrance,

My time of recollection.

Into the challenge of my anguish

I throw the strength of all my hope:

I match the darts of my despair with the treasures of my dreams.

Upon the current of my heart

I float the burdens of the years;

I challenge the mind of death with my love of life.

Such to me is the Time of Recollection,

The Season of Remembrance.

 

Sermon

I was having dinner with some friends the other night, and, knowing that I would be writing this sermon that would touch upon the role that Christmas music can play in our lives, I asked those gathered to recall their favorite Christmas song.  I got many responses, “The Little Drummer Boy,” “The Christmas Song” (… you know, “Chestnuts roasting on an open fire…”), “God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen” among them.  No one there seemed to latch on to my request with much enthusiasm, though.  Even the hosts’ children did not seem all that interested in the question.  When we asked the youngest to sing us a Christmas song, she kind of rolled her eyes and mumbled through a rushed version of “Jingle Bells,” as though she had been down this road many times before…already “over” the whole Christmas music scene…at the age of four.  Hearing his sister sing a few strands of “Jingle Bells” did bring the first-grader in from the back room, though, if only because he wanted to sing the line about Batman smelling and Robin laying an egg.

 

This of course prompted hearty laughter. Hearing a six-year old sing the words of a childhood classic—even one about Batman—can invoke that warm and fuzzy Christmas feeling as well as almost anything else.  Let’s sing it together now: 

“Jingle Bells, Batman smells, Robin laid an egg

The Bat-mobile lost its wheel and the Joker got away-hey.”

 

Almost instantaneously, then my wife and I had to sing the altered version of “We Three Kings.”  Sing along if you know it:

“We Three Kings of Orient Are,

Tried to smoke a rubber cigar.

It was loaded and exploded…”

 

Can any of you sing or hear those songs without thinking of your children or grandchildren, or your own childhood?

 

Music can do that to us.  Almost instantly, it seems, music can transport us to different times in our lives and Christmas music is particularly good at this because it returns every year, right on schedule, no matter where we are, or what we may be going through.  Sometime around Thanksgiving, the Christmas jukebox of our American lives gets pumped with quarters, and it doesn’t stop until the New Year.  This jukebox seems to play everywhere we go:  on the radio, on the television, in the stores, in church, and in our heads, providing the accompaniment for the ever-developing picture postcards that will become our memories.

 

As I have thought about it carefully this week, almost every Christmas song can remind me of a story from my life. 

 

“Winter Wonderland” takes me back to my first and only piano recital.  My teacher asked me to play a version of the song that required my hands to dance all over the piano.  I practiced and practiced and practiced.  And when the day came, I choked.  Big time.  My teacher had saved me, her oldest student, for the end of the program. You can picture me at 14, an age when humiliation comes as easy as breathing, sitting in a room filled with third graders and their parents, wondering why I was doing this to myself.  By the time I sat down at the keys, my clammy hands foreshadowed the performance to come.   I sloshed my way through the first page, but only after I had stopped and started over at least twice.  Finally I just slogged forward, knowing that the sooner I reached the last page, the sooner everyone could go home. In a room bedecked with Christmas decorations, I’m sure that my bright red face fit right in.

 

The song “Sleigh Ride” reminds me of the Johnny Mathis Christmas album I bought for my mother when I was in first grade.  It also brings to mind when I sang it with my high school show choir, when we would get dressed up in tuxedo shirts, black pants and red bow ties, do some cheesy choreography and sing Christmas music for elementary schools and nursing homes.

 

And some music of the season reminds me of things I didn’t directly experience…except through the television.  The touching singing of “Auld Lang Syne” at the end of It’s a Wonderful Life, for example.

And who of my generation can hear “O Come All Ye Faithful” without picturing the triumphant moment when TV’s Carol Brady was able to overcome her laryngitis and sing at church on Christmas morning?

 

In recent years, I’ve had a lot of fun buying CDs of the Christmas albums my family used to listen to when I was young, albums like The Kingston Trio’s “Last Month of the Year” and “John Denver and the Muppets”.  I play these CDs now and I am always amazed how the music can instantly trigger memories of the various interiors of my childhood homes, particularly our split-level house in Akron, Ohio. I can see the artificial tree in its traditional position in front of the picture window, lit with colored lights, the family cat sitting underneath it. My mother is cooking, I’m usually playing video games or trying to annoy my sister.   You know, having quality family time. 

 

Thinking about my own memories of Christmas songs has gotten me thinking about those that others may hold dear.  Songs that may have accompanied more trying times than moments on a sitcom or a screwed-up piano recital.  How about the significance of “I’ll Be Home for Christmas” to soldiers serving overseas, or the meaning that “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas” holds each year for people mourning the loss of a loved one?

 

No doubt, each of us has a favorite song or two that we love to sing…and maybe a couple that never fail to bring a lump to our throat or a tear to our eyes.  There may even be a song or two that make us angry. 

 

When I was in high school, I was in the car with a good friend of mine who, with great passion, switched off the radio at the opening strains of a popular 80s Christmas tune.  “I hate that song!” she yelled.  You see, her grandmother had died earlier that month and the lyrics apparently hit too close to home.  The song?

“Grandma Got Run Over by a Reindeer.”

 

Last year, my wife got so tired of hearing me sing “Silver Bells” that she outlawed it.  Seriously.  Now before you think Susan is a music Scrooge, let me assure you, I deserved it. For weeks already, I had been singing the tune of “Silver Bells”, sometimes with the traditional words, but more often than not with silly rhymes that fit whatever situation we were in.  I’m sure her patience was already wearing thin because whenever I would sing it, she could not help but join in; thereby effectively torturing herself!  I clearly remember the day she had had enough.  We were at a Christmas tree farm north of Des Moines and had just cut down our own tree.  I had never done this before so I was teeming with holiday spirit…and the music was flowing.  I’m sure by the time we made it past the reindeer petting zoo, I had sung the tune of “Silver Bells” at least a hundred different ways.  When I started singing about “reindeer, Christmas reindeer, dressed in holiday style” Susan grabbed me by the arm and blurted out, “I can’t take it anymore.  You have to stop!”  I started to laugh…and she didn’t…at least not at first.  Which was a sure sign that she was serious. You may be pleased to know that I have tried to honor my dear wife’s request and have mostly avoided subjecting her to my various renditions of “Silver Bells,” but the song has even more meaning to me now because it will forever trigger a memory of that day at the Christmas tree farm.

 

As each year passes and my Christmas music memory bank continues to grow, I have grown to appreciate their arrival, for these songs have become mileposts along the roadway of my life.  At regular intervals, here have come the Christmas carols, regardless of where I am or what I am feeling.  They appear right on schedule, chock-full with memories, with Christmas memories…memories of family, of friends, of life itself—complete with joy and sorrow.  And that, I have come to learn, is their gift to me…their gift to all of us—their mere presence. They are the recurring December soundtracks of our lives, prodding us with annual reminders of where we have been and where we are now, whether we like it or not. 

 

There are years when we may not want to hear certain carols, for they may remind us of things we would rather forget…and yet, there they are anyway, standing witness to the passage of time…the passing of life…reminding us that, as much as we might try, we cannot completely hide from the past…it will always surface eventually.  Therefore, the carols serve as yearly reminders that it is up to us to make peace with the ghosts of the past, to live better today because we have endured and learned from the pain of yesterday. So what can be most annoying about these Christmas songs is also the source of their gift to us. Why would we want to be reminded of pain, of times when the carols have accompanied unpleasant circumstances?  I guess, for the same reason that we would want to be reminded of good times, the Decembers when the carols were the background for our happiness.

 

In this way, the Christmas carols can be great teachers for us.  Their return each year is not a curse, but an opportunity…an opportunity for us to take stock of our lives.  To reflect back on what we have enjoyed and endured, survived and learned. 

 

One Christmas song that encourages me to reflect on my own life each year has been “Silent Night.” Let’s sing together the first verse. 

 

Silent Night/ Holy Night/ All is calm/ All is bright/

Round yon Virgin, Mother and Child/

Holy infant, so tender and mild/

Sleep in heavenly peace/

Sleep in heavenly peace.

 

I imagine the song “Silent Night” means many different things to the people gathered here this morning.  When you hear its tune are you filled with memories of holidays past or are you simply confused at the thought of a holy infant in the hands of yon Virgin mother?  Are you comforted by its tender words and melody or are you perplexed by the concept of “heavenly peace?” Whatever the tradition from which you hail, chances are good that “Silent Night” means something to you, or at least provokes memories of something.  What is it about this simple song that has enabled it to endure?

 

The tale of the first performance of “Silent Night” may be a good place to begin, for it, like the Christmas story itself, is a story of a miraculous birth.  On Christmas Eve in 1818, in a small village church in the Austrian Alps, Joseph Mohr—a 26-year old assistant to the priest—was concerned about the evening’s mass.  The old church organ, frequently on the fritz, had broken down again.  It would be spring before the itinerant organ repairman would come by to fix it, leaving the unappealing prospect of Mass on Christmas Eve without music.  Mohr had written a poem, a simple verse describing what he imagined the scene to be at Jesus’ birth.  He approached his friend, 31-year-old Franz Gruber, a schoolteacher from a neighboring village and organist at the church.  After Mohr had shared his poem with Gruber, he asked him to set it to music so that they could sing it together with guitar accompaniment at the midnight service.  Thus, out of less than ideal circumstances, a Christmas classic was born.  In recent years, the truth of this story has been questioned by scholars who have cast doubt on whether or the song was crafted because of the organ’s breakdown or if it had actually been written many days, if not months before that Christmas Eve service. I prefer, however, to think of the song arriving that night, as if its presence were a gift bestowed on the writers, a gift of inspiration from some unknown source, much like the story of Jesus, a man whose love knew no bounds, has been an inspiration to many throughout history.  It makes for a better story.

 

Because the song was meant for a one-time event in a small church, it was quickly forgotten.  Seven years later, a man named Carl Mauracher was commissioned to rebuild the organ at the church.  During his work in the organ loft, he found a handwritten copy of the words and musical notation.  He then took it home to his village in the mountains of Tyrol, where the song became popular with the folk choirs of the region, eventually finding its way into the hands of the Royal Court Choir of Berlin, and thereafter, the world.  So what began as a simple last-minute Christmas Eve offering for a tiny church grew into something else altogether. 

 

The translation most of us know, the one we sang a few minutes ago, varies in key ways from a more literal translation of the original German.  A more accurate translation is

Silent Night, Holy Night

All are asleep, alone awake

Only the intimate Holy pair,

Charming child with curly hair

Sleep in heavenly peace

Sleep in heavenly peace.

Silent Night, Holy Night

In the heavens the star shines

Proclaiming the mystery is taking place

This child asleep on the straw

He is infinite Love!

He is infinite love!

 

When I read this translation, I get a different feel for the point of the song.  I hear in its words an enormous sense of potential, of unfolding mystery and love.  I hear in its words not dogma, but a respect for the mystery of life itself…the “infinite love” possible in every birth.  It brings to mind a reading by Sophia Lyon Fahs that we often share this time of year in UU churches.  She wrote:


“…each night a child is born is a holy night,

Fathers and mothers—sitting beside their children’s cribs feel glory in the sight of new life beginning.

They ask, “Where and how will this new life end?  Or will it ever end?”

Each night a child is born is a holy night—

A time for singing, a time for wondering, a time for worshipping.”

 

So while I know that “Silent Night” is a song that some of us may object to theologically, I think if we focus too much on dogmatic details, we may be missing a greater message.

 

When I was a child, of course, theology didn’t matter at all.  Still, “Silent Night” did not impel me toward contemplation of the miracle of birth.  In fact, its tune mostly just affected me like a bell affected Pavlov’s dogs.  I suppose like many of you, I was conditioned to know that once the Christmas Eve congregation at the family church began singing “Silent Night”, the candles would be lit, the service would soon be over, and I could get home…my holiday penance of church attendance paid.  Then all I had to do was make it through the night and gifts would be waiting for me under the family tree.

 

But when I was in college, “Silent Night,” gained added importance. 

As a student at Ashland University, I had the privilege to sing every December as a member of a madrigal troupe.  We worked all fall, learning traditional carols and English music from the 16th century and doing our best to grow beards…the men, that is…to prepare for a week of performances at the annual Madrigal feast.  Each night, over the course of seven days, my fellow madrigals and I would dress in mock-ups of Renaissance garb, complete with goofy hats, tights, and ill-fitting footwear, and attempt to entertain about 200 people who paid to consume Cornish game hens, applaud at the arrival of some kind of flaming dessert soaked in rum, and hear music of the season. One of the highlights of the night was the final set of more traditional Christmas music, culminating with a special performance of “Silent Night.” The troupe would sing the first verse in German, then the audience with lit candles in hand, would join in signing the remainder in English. It was always a touching moment.

 

Over the four years I participated in the feasts, I grew quite fond of the tradition.  My family enjoyed it, as well, making the hour-long drive from their home in Akron one night each December to participate.  One year, though, my mother had been suffering one of her frequent and crippling bouts with depression and it was unlikely that she would be able to attend.  After years of roller coaster-like ups and downs, it appeared as though she might be nearing the end of her rope.  Just when I had resigned myself to the fact that she wouldn’t be coming, she somehow got up enough gumption to join my father and sister in making the trip.  I don’t remember much about the performance she attended that year, except for the end.

 

As the candles flickered their eerie yellow glow, I remember standing there in my forest green madrigal costume made of old curtains and smelling pungent with the years of accumulated perspiration.  My feet, clad in thin slippers to look Madrigally, were blocks of ice against the marble floor of Redwood Hall.  The air was lightly touched with the intermingled smell of coffee and candle wax, and the troupe began to quietly sing:

(sung)

Stille Nacht, heilige Nacht

Alles schlaft, einsam wacht,

Nur das traute hochheilge Paar

Holder Knabe im lockigen Haar,

Schlaf in himmlischer Ruh

Schlaf in himmlischer Ruh.

As the crowd joined in, I looked out to the table where I had reserved seats for my family and there was my mother, my beautiful, troubled mother singing “Silent Night.”  I could not hear her voice, yet I knew it was somewhere in the unison mix emanating from the makeshift community of local townspeople, friends and families.  Out of the music, and the hazy glow of the shared candle light, came a truly holy moment for me.  A moment of peace.  A moment of transcendence.  If only for this moment, things were ok.  My mother was there, singing, I was singing, everyone was singing.  We were singing about hope, about miracles, about light.  Suddenly a song that had been significant simply for its place in the Christmas soundtrack of my life had new meaning, new depth.  I found myself connected not only to the tune, but to the words as well.  Who cares if I didn’t believe Christ was Lord.  At that moment, that was not what the song was really about anyway.

 

In the years since that night, much has changed.  My mother is no longer alive, my family doesn’t get together every December the way we used to, and I now find myself leading the singing of  “Silent Night” not as a madrigal, but as a minister.  But singing “Silent Night” can still take me back to that night, fifteen years ago, and has therefore become, like many other Christmas carols, more than just a song for me.  It is an annual reminder of the fragile gift we can be to one another…the temporary nature of our shared lives and the blessings that life has to offer…even in our suffering…even in our pain.  The singing of “Silent Night” has become for me annual evidence of the miracle that we exist, that we can gather together, and share…and love, and lose…and keep living anyway.  Am I stretching this all too far?  Maybe, but it seems to me that stretching is what the Christmas celebration is all about.

 

For one glorious season each year, one magical night, maybe even just an occasional precious moment, what we have lost or have yet to receive is not as important as what we have.  And our individual lives are not as important as our collective presence…how we are with each other and how we choose to live.

 

So this Christmas, as you gather with your families and friends, at home or at church, I invite you to reclaim those Christmas classics, those trite old Christmas songs you’ve known for years, and I encourage to you sing them with gusto.  You never know… you may be creating the soundtrack for a treasured memory.

 

 

Closing Words (Jane Rzepka)

“When all is quiet and we are small and the night is dark, may we hear the tender breathing of all who lie awake with us in fear, that together we may gather strength to live with love, and kindness, and confidence.”