Is There Enough God Here?
Rev. Mark Stringer
First Unitarian Church of Des Moines
8/12/07

“There is a little plant called reverence in the corner of my soul’s garden, which I love to have watered once a week.” –Oliver Wendell Holmes, Unitarian professor, physician and author (1809-1894) 

UU Minute

This year, First Unitarian celebrates our 130th year as a church community.  As part of that celebration, we will take a moment each week to remind, or perhaps introduce, us to Unitarians and Universalists from our shared history.  Today’s remembrance of Mary Safford has been written by member Dorothy Ramsey. 

         Born to Presbyterian Illinois farmers 15 years before the start of the Civil War, Mary Augusta Safford grew to be a Johnny Appleseed of sorts to the Unitarian movement in the Midwest, founding and serving churches in Iowa, Illinois, Minnesota, North and South Dakota before retiring to Orlando, Florida where she founded one more church!  So much for retirement!! 

         As the central figure of what came to be known as the Iowa Sisterhood, Mary was a force for liberal religions tradition.  In 1871, she founded the Hawthorne Literary Society, a forum for sharing new ideas.   Oscar Clute, a Unitarian minister just across the river in Iowa, was one of the group’s favorite speakers.   His lecture, “The Evolution of Religion” created quite a stir.   He provided the support Mary Safford and Eleanor Gordon, lifelong friends, needed to start their first church in Hamilton.  By the spring of 1879, they were planning public worship services!  From there to Humbolt, Iowa, to Sioux City to Des Moines, where she served from 1889 to 1910. 

         Her mantra, “Lengthen the cord and strengthen the stakes,” guided her efforts to share her belief that "true religion must first of all be 'free' religion, free from irrational dogma that discouraged personal growth." She held that the human soul would evolve, not in solitude but, through community. People would make their common tasks divine "by doing them in the spirit of love and helpfulness."

         We call the back of this auditorium the Mary Safford Room.  She was our minister for 21 of her 70 years.  Although she has been dead for 80 years, her lessons endure through the many churches she served throughout the Midwest, including ours. 

 

Meditation

“No, I Would Not Leave You If You Suddenly Found God
by Jennifer Michael Hecht
from The Next Ancient World

Praise wild dancing in the kitchen.
Praise sitting and talking to the doctor.
Praise phone calls from my sister.
Praise phone calls from you, a little drunk, leaning toward me.
Praise old lovers who show up when they are needed.
Praise our mothers, safe in another state.
Praise my apartment with its three wide rooms.
Praise the blue sky above the brick buildings.
Praise my back windows: trees, fire escapes, cafe lights.
Praise coffee (it destroys sadness).
Praise encyclopedias.
Praise you calling crying.
Praise ibuprofen.
Praise painting on wood.
Praise all the days in the photographs.
Praise the press of my breasts against the inside of my winter coat.
Praise the name of my winter coat: Big Black.
Praise this feeling of trying to write about the truth.
Praise the Byzantine Empire.
Praise the salt in sweat. We are not alone. Praise making you laugh.
Praise making you proud.
Praise the second cup of coffee.
Praise having a party to go to tonight.
Praise my halting therapist.
Praise mixed baby lettuce.
Praise my confidence.
Praise my talent.
Praise bravery in the face of fear.
Praise my fearlessness.
Praise my fear.
Praise pickled herring with onions.
Praise the Arctic Circle.
Praise the Mighty Tonka truck.
Praise the forklift; praise the crane.
Praise theater tickets.
Praise the repetition of names.
Praise the Virgin.
Praise the Magdalene.
Praise Magellan.
Praise Central Park.
Praise your uneven teeth.
Praise blood-stained sheets.
Praise the land, and what I know about its bedrock.
Praise David, dancing wild around the ark of his Lord.
Praise the job of work of truth.
Praise the phrase "job of work."
Praise your faith in me.
Praise your courage.
Praise my faithfulness.
Praise my dedication.
Praise that you sleep with one eye open because a dog bit your face.
Praise your extra nipple.
Praise that we are not lovers.
Praise that we touch each other like lovers.
Praise that you figure out the movie before me.
Praise my desperation.
Praise my terrible fear.
Praise Jones Beach.
Praise the boys in long pants selling frozen Snickers at the sea shore.
Praise death.
Praise the memory of being tiny and tumbled under the ocean, close
to death. Praise arch support.
Praise chewing on a steak bone.
Praise other people's poems.
Praise the Empire State Building.
Praise swimming out so far, I forget the fact of land.
Praise eating chicken-cutlet sandwiches with my brother at the beach.
Praise doing the puzzle with my mother.
Praise my father explaining the universe.
Praise that after visiting Great-Grandma Bertha's,
we went to Coney Island.
Praise three of us fitting in one seat on the Cyclone.
Praise the weird little town where you were raised.
Praise that you were born here where I was born.
Praise the ex-lovers we have in common; praise chocolate.
Praise living at the millennium.
Praise the rotary phone.
Praise broccoli rabe with garlic and olive oil.
Praise total abandon.
Praise bringing out the harpies.
Praise using every muscle.
Praise thirst and water.
Praise the landing on the moon.
Praise singing loud and hard.
Praise going to bed exhausted.
Praise your poems.
Praise my poems.
Praise that we drink too much.
Praise you promising me that you will stop smoking.
Praise how I moon over you.
Praise how you love me.
Praise your strong husband.
Praise dancing to swing.
Praise dancing to the blues.
Praise the borscht at Veselka.
Praise my first gray hairs.
Praise acetaminophen.
Praise Aus-tra-lo-pithecus.
Praise speaking the truth.
Praise knowing that life is an endeavor of truth.
Praise knowing that life is the becoming towards truth.
Praise the authentic moments of working with someone towards truth.
Praise desire.
Praise stupefying desire.
Praise north and south.
Praise the yellow sun on the red brick buildings outside my windows.
Praise knowing that it is midnight out the back window
because the cafe lights go off.
Praise oranges.
Praise midnight out the front windows and the Empire State Building
goes dark.
Praise Cezanne's apples and oranges.
Praise men from their callused feet to their beautiful thinning hair.
Praise women from Sappho biting her lip
through the first hip-swagger of the new millennium.
Praise the shark giving birth to live young.
Praise the bird.
Praise the words "decapitated" and "disembodied."
Praise rhyme.
Praise meter.
Praise certainty.
Praise indivisibility.
Praise the movies; praise writing songs.
Praise asking each other when we are supposed to bleed.
Praise talking to myself alone in the dark.
Praise my endless pleasure in the godless solitude of my private mind.
Praise the giraffe and the porcupine.
Praise sloth.
Praise gluttony.
Praise a man's hand pressing the small of my back.
Praise your tiny feet.
Praise travel.
Praise the refusal of travel.
Praise your blue eyes.
Praise kissing men: desert of whiskers, oasis of lips.
Praise kissing women and the effort not to bite.
Praise the lips and the tongues and the grease.
Praise the feast.
Praise agony.
Praise defeat.
Praise that we used to dance in public and that now we dance at home.
Praise faith.
Praise glory.
Praise praise.
Praise your brilliant heart.
Praise the mystical abundance of your horrifying heart.
No, I will not leave you if you want to worship God.

 

Readings

In a recent essay, nationally syndicated columnist Cal Thomas reflected on an article in the New York Times, in which Hillary Clinton was questioned about her faith perspective.  Raised as a Methodist, Clinton admitted that while she considers herself a Christian, she is less sure of the doctrine that being a Christian is the only way to salvation.  Which prompted this response from Thomas:

 

“Liberal faith [to which Sen. Clinton subscribes], which is to say a faith that discounts the authority of Scripture in favor of a constantly evolving, poll-tested relevancy to modern concerns—such as the environment, what kind of SUV Jesus would drive, larger government programs and other “do good” pursuits—ultimately morphs into societal and self-improvement efforts and jettisons the life-changing message of salvation, forgiveness of sins and a transformed life…If there are other ways to God than through Jesus, why did He bother to come to Earth, allow Himself to be crucified and suffer rejection?  He might have stayed in Heaven and told people about a spiritual GPS system that would get them there another way.”

 

Our second reading is a poem by David Whyte, entitled “Self-Portrait”

 

It doesn’t interest me if there is one God
or many Gods.

I want to know if you belong or feel
abandoned.

If you know despair or can see it in others.

I want to know
if you are prepared to live in the world
with its harsh need
to change you.  If you can look back
with firm eyes
saying this is where I stand.  I want to know
if you know
how to melt into that fierce heat of living
falling toward
the center of your longing.  I want to know
if you are willing
to live, day by day, with the consequence of love
and the bitter
unwanted passion of your sure defeat.

I have been told, in that fierce embrace, even
the gods speak of God.

 

Sermon    

It was the first truly difficult conversation for the young couple.  It bubbled up at the end of their first season together.  They had already spent many hours together during these first few months of their dating…adrenaline-filled, dizzying, endless-yet-all-too-short hours that characterize most new romances…and found that they had perhaps more in common with one another than with their partners in any other romantic relationship either had previously shared.  But, this conversation…this uncomfortable conversation…had the potential of threatening their still-in-the-bud future together.  Or at least it felt that way to the young man, who sensed (perhaps unfairly) that his answers to her questions might never suffice.  “Could this be the deal breaker?” he could not help but wonder, as he struggled to describe his position in a way that would not compromise his integrity, and yet would still leave room for her to maintain hers.

 

The conversation had started innocently enough, no doubt with a light-hearted jab meant to provoke discussion.  It doesn’t matter who did the first jabbing.  And enough time has passed, I’m not sure either of them would remember anyway.   It didn’t take too long for the back-and-forth to move right to the heart of the matter, though. 

 

“I’m just not sure you are spiritual enough,” she told him, her words hanging in the air for a few moments while he tried to figure out what to say.

 

“I’m definitely spiritual,” he explained.  “I just haven’t found the words or the place to articulate what I believe.”

 

More silence.

 

“I guess you will just have to trust me on this one,” he added.

 

Looking back, the young man, now not quite so young anymore, wonders if anything in the room changed at that moment.  If maybe the walls had shaken or at least the lights had flickered a little bit.  And not just at the irony that a discussion about faith had ended with the comparatively faithless partner asking the faithful one to have some faith.   No, there is more irony here to ponder.  Six years later, a year after the young couple had wed, the young man entered theological school.  And four years later, he accepted the call to be the minister of this very church.  A church, where, this minister has chosen to offer a sermon this morning that has, at its heart, the same basic question posed by his future bride all those years ago.  Is this church spiritual enough?  Is there enough God here?

 

Of course neither Susan nor I should be held too accountable for that conversation from 16 years ago.  We were in our early twenties; we still had many of our possessions in our parents’ homes, and many of our childhood understandings and expectations of religion in our hearts and minds.

 

But as I thought about how to approach my topic this morning, I kept coming back to that exchange all those years ago…and how both of us would have been surprised to know then where we would both end up these many years later.

 

Like a young couple in love reveling in their new relationship, haven’t many (if not most of us) who were not raised UU, felt some giddy delight at finding Unitarian Universalism, this religion with which we may feel more compatible than any other from our past, even as we may have, at another level, questioned just what in the world is going on here, in this religion that feels so unlike what we may have always thought religion is, was or maybe even should be?  As one friend told me after she sat through her first UU service, “I don’t know what that was, but it wasn’t church.”

 

“Is that a good thing or a bad thing?” I asked. 

“I’m not sure yet,” she said.

 

I know that there are those among us, like my friend, who wonder what they are doing here…who are not yet sure that this place is the home for their spiritual quest that some of us would like to believe it is, or at least, could be.

 

Some of the problem for these folks may be a lack of traditional God talk from the pulpit…at least from the minister, anyway.  Funny, isn’t it, that what has drawn so many of us to Unitarian Universalism, the lack of traditional religious language and dogma, is what others have difficulty (at least at first) getting their minds around.  But, then again, each of us first arrived in a UU church from different locales and histories, and carrying different religious baggage, some heavier than others.

 

I remember early in my ministry here, I received a letter from a relatively new member who had decided that he had to leave the church because he felt that I was too restricted in what I said from the pulpit…that it would be unacceptable for me to talk about God in this community.  One sentence of that letter especially stands out in my memory.  He wrote, “I’d love to get you hooked up to a lie detector to see what you really feel about God.”

 

While I was disappointed to see this fellow leave our community, as I am any time we say goodbye to someone who has been gathering with us, I was even more saddened to acknowledge that he thought he needed a lie detector to determine my feelings about God.  

 

You know, he could have just asked me.

 

Of course, even if he had, he may not have liked the answer. On the other hand, I may not have been all that forthcoming anyway, as the following story, told by one of my colleagues, suggests.  I’ve told this story before, but it’s a good one.

 

One day this UU minister was approached by a member of the congregation he then served, who with great earnestness asked, “I need to know.  Are you a humanist or a theist?”  Somewhat surprised, the minister replied, “Why on earth do you need to know that?” 

 

The member answered, “I just do.  It’s very important to me that I know where you are coming from.  So, please, tell me, if you are a humanist or a theist.” 

 

The minister rubbed his chin, thought for a moment, and responded, “I guess that all depends…” 

 

“Depends on what?” the member interrupted. 

 

“Well, it all depends on what you are.”

 

Becoming exasperated now, the member shot back, “Why does it matter what I think?  I am asking you what you think!” 

 

“It does matter what you think,” the minister replied.  Then he put his hand on the member’s shoulder and continued, “If you are a humanist, then I am a theist.  If you are a theist, then I am a humanist.”

 

My colleague, in sharing that story, was not advocating deception.  I think he was taking his role as a liberal religious leader seriously enough to model playfulness in religious perspectives, thereby encouraging the members he served to question and/or inhabit their own perceptions enough to be comfortable even if their minister happened to believe something they didn’t.

 

The liberal religious mindset throughout time, particularly in our Unitarian Universalist tradition, is grounded in some basic commitments that encourage that each of us be willing to take our own individual perceptions of the mystery seriously…but not too seriously…and to give others the room to do the same.  These commitments include an emphasis on free and open intellectual inquiry, respect for the authority of individual experience and reason, and consideration of any religious claim in the light of our ever-changing understandings, knowledge and life experiences.  In a nutshell then, liberal religion contends that an ever-evolving “faith without certainty” is not only possible, but can be an ethically tenable, intellectually credible, and socially relevant approach to religion.[1]

 

Which brings me to the Cal Thomas piece Rob read.  Though the point of the column from which I excerpted today’s reading was to skewer Hillary Clinton for her attempt to use her religious faith for political gain in the midst of a presidential campaign (one can only hope he will be equally critical of other faith-parading candidates who happen to share his religious perspective), he also offers us what I think is a concise understanding of the difference between an orthodox and a liberal approach to religion.  Thomas bemoans a faith, (or strongly held set of beliefs or principles, if you will), that is constantly evolving and relevant to modern times.  He shakes his head at a religious perspective that would dare to forego traditional theological notions to consider ways to improve the world in which we live and our own lives in that world.  He maintains a narrow view of the concepts of salvation, forgiveness and transformation as if they have nothing at all to do with anything other than adherence to the “authority of Scripture,” and contends that to deviate from the traditional, church-authorized understandings of that scripture, even when they are outdated, if not outlandish to our modern sensibilities, would be to render one’s theology irrelevant.  Basically, if you are looking for a quick understanding of liberal religion, know that it is diametrically opposed to these perceptions of Cal Thomas.  I need to remember to drop him a note, thanking him for helping me explain the differences.

 

So, to get back to the question of the morning, “Is there enough God here?”  I must answer it all depends. If your idea of faith and religion is like that expressed by Cal Thomas, meaning it is tied to a need for certainty about the existence of God or a quest for a definitive understanding about He/She/It, particularly at the exclusion of other religious perspectives, I can safely say, there may never be enough “God” for you here.  That’s not to say, of course, that we don’t want you around.  On the contrary, you’d probably give a lot of our more argumentative members a chance to hone their patience skills.  I just think you may be less frustrated elsewhere.  

 

On the flipside, if you believe that the very notion of God is insane and anyone who dares to express theistic ideas in your presence is not only deluded but dangerous, there may always be too much God here, whether I say the word from the pulpit or not.  That’s because a foundational component of our liberal religious approach (when we are at our best anyway) is that we not only welcome the theological diversity of our membership; we encourage it. The core of Unitarian Universalism is, in fact, the understanding, that there is no authoritative word on matters of faith…God or no God.  There is only the individual’s unique faith journey itself.  A journey at times fraught with great confusion and despair, but also a journey, in a community like this one at least, within which each of us has fellow travelers…fellow seekers…fellow human beings with whom to bounce up against, to test our assumptions, to celebrate and mourn life’s transitions, and to offer and receive compassion, as we continue on our quest to craft lives of meaning and purpose from an existence that we did not choose and can never fully understand or control. 

 

So, I have chosen as your minister to not use the word God, at least not without offering my own definition, because I wouldn’t want to turn away someone from our community by recklessly throwing around traditional religious language that is so loaded by others’ definitions as to be unnecessarily unwelcoming to those with no use for theistic notions.  You see, my vision of the beloved community, the kingdom of God, if some of you will pardon the expression, is a community in which all honest, non-coercive seekers have a place, where everyone can respectfully speak their perceptions of the mysteries of life and expect the same respect in return, where a speculative notion such as God is welcomed by individuals but not trumpeted as a fact.

 

One of the former ministers of this church, Curtis Reese, who served from 1915-1919, preached that “theism is philosophically possible, but not religiously necessary.”  As an early voice of the religious humanism movement, Reese did his best to contribute to the growth of a religion that, as he described it, “would not be shaken if the very thought of God were to pass away.”[2]

 

On a more personal note, since I have been using the term after all, over the years, I have gone from having little use for the concept of God, to accepting it as an apt descriptor for the communicative process described by liberal theologian Henry Nelson Wieman as “creative interchange,” a process that he believed was the “source of human good,” with the power to enrich, if not transform, human life and lead to its highest possible fulfillment, a process evident when people intentionally engage with each other with the expectation that this transformation is possible, thereby making it so.  Does it matter that I call “creative interchange” God?  Not to me.  So I rarely do. 

 

But, it is my goal that every sermon I preach is, in fact, an expression of my idea of God, a vehicle for encouraging the creative interchange that I believe is our greatest hope, not only as a community, or a religion, or a nation, but as a human race.

 

I never thought, during that first difficult discussion with my future wife, that I would end up a minister.  And I’m sure she never thought that she would end up a minister’s wife.  But, surprising as these developments might have been 16 years ago, they sure feel right now.  I guess it has been God…uh, I mean creative interchange…at work.  And I have Unitarian Universalism to thank for offering me the community within which I could question, the community within which I could grow, the community within which I could transform and become. 

 

As the saying goes:

I sought my soul; my soul eluded me. 
I sought my God; my God eluded me. 
I sought my neighbor, and found all three.

 

May it be true for us all.

 

 

 



[1] Paul Rasor, Faith Without Certainty,  (Boston: Skinner House,  2005),  p. 1

[2] Mason Olds, American Religious Humanism, revised edition (Minneapolis: Fellowship of Religious Humanists, 1996), p. 38.